Domestic Violence – Not Only the Problem of Chris Brown and Rihanna
Categories: Bay Area News, Focus on Concord
Written By: Mayor Concord California
Yes, I’ll say it. A man that beat his wife is a coward. It’s nothing new but I have seen more than a few cases of domestic violence cases making headlines in our area recently. From the murder-suicide in North Concord and others, domestic abuse is a growing problem.
I know that men are abused too but the numbers are much higher for women that are abused. What’s wrong with men that think it’s ok to beat their spouses? I mean, I’ve been mad too, sometimes so made I want to throw something but I’ve never felt the need to hit my girlfriend or wife. Hitting women is a sign of weakness. Take control of yourself and walk away from the situation.
Domestic violence (also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse, or intimate partner violence) occurs when a family member, partner or ex-partner attempts to physically or psychologically dominate another. Domestic violence often refers to violence between spouses, or spousal abuse but can also include cohabitants and non-married intimate partners. Domestic violence occurs in all cultures; people of all races, ethnicities, religions, sexes and classes can be perpetrators of domestic violence. Domestic violence is perpetrated by both men and women.
California Statistics
- Every day three women are murdered by their intimate partners.
- 61 percent of women murdered by males where killed by husbands or male partners.
- 20 percent of teenage girls and young women have experienced some form of dating violence.
- Half of men who abuse their wives also abuse their children.
- When an intimate partner inflicted an injury upon a woman, she reported the violence to the police only 55% of the time.
- Up to 13 million children a year witness domestic violence.
- Every year, almost 6% of California’s women suffer physical injuries from domestic violence.
- Abuse in relationships exists among all classes, races and cultural groups, although women between ages 16 and 24 are nearly three times more vulnerable to intimate partner violence.
- Nearly 20% of women who went hungry because they couldn’t afford to buy food were also a victim of intimate partner violence.
- Domestic violence in the United States costs an estimated $67 billion annually.
Stop the abuse. I was researching this post and found out about a local organization that is committed to this cause. There Mission Statement is: For those impacted by domestic violence, STAND! Against Domestic Violence is the catalyst for change that breaks the generational cycle of abuse and rebuilds lives. STAND! Against Domestic Violence is committed to ending domestic violence through the provision of prevention and intervention services, primarily in Contra Costa County. In 2002 and 2003 STAND! opened offices in Richmond, Antioch and Pittsburg in order to better serve the various regions and communities of Contra Costa County. Today STAND! Against Domestic Violence is a major force for change in Contra Costa County, California. STAND! now boasts over 60 staff and over 150 volunteers who operate all its various programs.
STAND! Against Domestic Violence is ready to help right now. The 24-hour Crisis Line provides crisis intervention and peer support by telephone 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Our toll-free telephone number is 1.888.215.5555.
If you are hurting someone you love, call 925.676.2968
If you are calling from outside Contra Costa County, please call the national domestic violence hotline at 1.800.799.7233 or if you are disabled 1.800.787.3224 (TTY).
They are also hosting an Academy Awards Party raising money for their group.
STAND! Against Domestic Violence
8th Annual Academy Awards Benefit Party
When: February 22nd, 2009
4:30PM
Where: Brenden Theatres – 1985 Willow Pass Road, Concord
Tickets: $45 Reserved or $55 at the door
Featuring
LIVE SIMULCAST OF THE 81st ANNUAL ACADEMY AWARDS
- Gourmet Food
- Excellent Raffle
- Fabulous Prizes
INVITE ALL YOUR FRIENDS
Reserve a row of 10 today!
All proceeds benefit STAND! Against Domestic Violence
Call 925-603-0138 for tickets, sponsorship and group rates
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February 12th, 2009 at 8:14 pm
I agree. there is no excuse for domestic abuse. I am happy there are services out there for people.
February 12th, 2009 at 11:58 pm
What about all the men that are abused. Since when does a crazy wife get away with everything?
February 13th, 2009 at 12:30 am
Thank you. There is no excuse for domestic abuse. It doesn’t matter if she’s a nag or swearing at you or trying to start a fight or whatever the hell–you’re a grown adult, you can be the responsible one.
Kyle: What’s with guys like you and needing to go “But what about meeeeen?” In any case, the second paragraph started with “I know guys are abused too”, and the article goes on to note that domestic abuse is perpetrated by both genders. Try reading before you start whining.
February 19th, 2009 at 10:48 pm
Having just attended a little round table discussion on the County Budget, it is sad that the number of case workers to handle and investigate Elder Abuse etc has been cut in half.
February 20th, 2009 at 6:50 pm
TMZ has a police picture of Rihanna’s injuries. It looks pretty damn bad. There is absolutely no excuse for that.
February 26th, 2009 at 3:03 pm
Actually I know what everybody is saying. But sometimes is really hard to leave,
I’m a mother that is been abused for about 7 years and my kids had since my boyfriend hit me so many times. the last time was on Valentines day he hit me so bad the now I’m dizzy every day and have headaches constanlty. So believe I know what physical, emotional, mentally abused is.
March 15th, 2009 at 9:23 am
Sad reflection on the male’s moral fiber. If his ass was as hard against the wall for survival, and his list of Male responsibilities as big as it should be, his fists would be as busy as mine are, defending wives, daughters, and children from the real problems in life! Has his mother spoken yet? Is she too ashamed to appear in his defense? Was she beaten also? A large portion of the American community is infested with irresponsible males and poorly defined roles and men and fathers – even the President testifies to this! It is time for education and example for these otherwise good lads! Condemnation is not in order, nor harsh punishment, history has proven this futile. Mothers must learn first to respect themselves and know the law, then through expectation, transfer this sense to sons. Get the ball rolling Obama, we voted for you now DO Something for Women the world over!
March 16th, 2009 at 7:56 am
Men need to control themselves and women need to leave the men that abuse them. A sad stat is that 3 out of 4 women return to their abusers. Thanks for writing this post for the community. I think Contra Costa County could use some help exposing these things.
May 15th, 2009 at 2:01 pm
I was abused by my loser husband and found out after I threw him out he was beating our son. I now have a 5 year restraining order against him. He cannot be near myself or the children. But here is the part that makes NO sense. The same judge who granted the restraining order ordered us to go to mediation to come up with a visitation plan. What the heck is that about. He beat my son and now he is allowed unsupervised visits with him and can take him for 2 weeks over the summer. This just seems wrong.
June 29th, 2009 at 6:29 pm
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October 18th, 2009 at 10:18 am
Can someone please help me with some advice? My neice and nephew were present during a domestic violence fight. I want to help my brother in law ( it was his two kids who were there) and find out how we get the report? the police were called and the mothers boyfriend was taken to jail. please help the kids are effected and the mom lies to my brother in law and her boyfriend has a bad temper.
October 19th, 2009 at 3:10 pm
Can someone please help me with some advice? My neice and nephew were present during a domestic violence fight. I want to help my brother in law ( it was his two kids who were there) and find out how we get the report? the police were called and the mothers boyfriend was taken to jail. please help the kids are effected and the mom lies to my brother in law and her boyfriend has a bad temper.
October 19th, 2009 at 3:12 pm
Please can someone please help me with some advice? My neice and nephew were present during a domestic violence fight. I want to help my brother in law ( it was his two kids who were there) and find out how we get the report? the police were called and the mothers boyfriend was taken to jail. please help the kids are effected and the mom lies to my brother in law and her boyfriend has a bad temper.
my email address is creativejuju@yahoo.com
Thank you